TWELVE RIGHTS OF A MUSLIM WIFE UPON HER HUSBAND

TWELVE RIGHTS OF A MUSLIM WIFE UPON HER HUSBAND

Below are the 12 rights of a muslim wife upon her husband in Islam.

1. To spend upon her, to feed her. Not to be excessive in this and not to be stingy.

2. To be kind to her. The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife.”

3. Not to harm her.

4. To be loving to her, examples:

- Loving to her with your tongue. Nice words, tell her you love her. Tell her how good she looks.

- If your wife asks you to get her something and you can’t get it , say I’ll get it inshaa’Allaah.

- That the man beautifies himself with that which is reasonable, (not intimating women).

- From being loving to your wife is that you help her with housework. This is from the example of the prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam)

- That he is to be playful with his wife.

- Sharing food with her.

- To cuddle with her.

- Sleep under the same cover.

- (I) They would bathe together: On the authority of ‘Aa’ishah (radiyallaahu ‘anhu) who said: “I used to bathe with the Prophet from a single container of water which was placed between us such that our hands collided inside it. He used to race me such that I would say: “Leave some for me, leave some for me!’ She added: `We were in a state of Janaabah (i.e. the state of having slept together).’”
[Al-Bukharee and Muslim].

5. That the men must not curse or swear at his wife, or insult her appearance.

6. A man must not boycott her and if he does (for a valid reason) he should do it inside of the home.

7. A man should not expose the secrets of his wife “Verily among the worst people before Allaah on the Day of Judgement is a man who approaches his wife sexually and she responds and then he spreads her secrets.”
[Muslim, Ibn Abee Shaybah, Ahmad and others].

8. A man should not hate his wife. Exalt the good and minimise her shortcomings. A man should not be angry at her faults and should look at her good. To look only good in her.

9. That he should make things easy upon her e.g. The chores and what he requires from her.

10. He should have the best manners with his wife. His wife should see the best of his manners. It is said that some men have the best manners out in the market , but when he goes home he is a ferocious lion! Kind to strange women in the markets but not to his wife in the home. The best of you are the best of you to your wives. There is no good in you if you want to help your friends but not your wife, there is no good in you if you are kind to your friends and not your wife. Combine the two , and that is good.

11. That the husband should be a reason for his wife to be saved from the hellfire. He should teach her and order her to forbid the evil and enjoy the good. Forbidding her from that which will lead to hell fire. O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed]angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allaah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.

12. That the man should have some type of jealousy for his wife. Jealousy of protecting her from evil, not for her to be exposed to strange men , not for her to speak to strange men etc. but not the abusive jealousy…

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  • Ronald

    How about letting her show her fucking hair

  • MdAzhar

    Also let me what are rights of husband in Islam.

    • Waqar Shareef

      The beautiful thing is that when a man fulfill all his wife’s rights, she will fulfill his automatically and willingly almost out of love and instinct. Having said that, it would be nice to know what are husband’s rights too.
      Another thing to remember is that we will not be questioned about whether our rights were fulfilled. We will be questioned about our obligations towards others. Our obligations towards others = to other’s rights over us.

      • DaCure

        Plz stop shortcutting the husband’s rights. A wife’s rights and husbands rights should be mentioned side by side. So the equality is there. This is Mash’Allaah very informative but incomplete without mentioned of a husband’s rights. May Allaah Subhanahu Wa’tallaah guide us to what is best for us Ameen

        • sk

          It’s funny to see all these men reading this and asking for their rights as well. Men’s rights are displayed everywhere, it’s very seldom that women are told their rights and to see the men jumping all over this is quite amusing. This article is about women’s rights. The author doesn’t have to provide a side by side with men’s rights. You can google it and see.

          • Mansoor Ali

            So are women’s rights mentioned on google it is actually quite funny how women have to always display their rights and not act like the prophets wife’s

  • Zahirah

    The hadith related by Aishah made me smile!

  • Rayhaan Sh

    IT seems there is some very serious error in the below point. I request the website administrator to please correct it. As Biebie Ayesha radiallahu anhu is the daughter of Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam)

    (I) They would bathe together: On the authority of ‘Aa’ishah (radiyallaahu ‘anhu) who said: “I used to bathe with the Prophet from a single container of water which was placed between us such that our hands collided inside it. He used to race me such that I would say: “Leave some for me, leave some for me!’ She added: `We were in a state of Janaabah (i.e. the state of having slept together).’”
    [Al-Bukharee and Muslim].

    • aisha ahmad

      Bibie Fatima is his daughter not Aisha radiyallahu an ha. She Aisha is the daughter of sayyidina Abubakar whom he married to our nabiyy sallallaahu alaihi wassalam.

  • Del Stone

    Rights and preferences are confused by the author – most of these are not rights, just preferences!