BEING CONSIDERATE TO OTHERS FEELINGS – (1)

BEING CONSIDERATE TO OTHERS FEELINGS – (1)

“All praise is due to Allaah, and may His peace and blessings be upon His Prophet Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, and his family and Companions.”

To proceed:
Allaah the Almighty has ordained this valuable religion for us and He has perfected it. He has completed His blessings upon us and approved Islaam as a religion for us. It is complete and clear, including the creed, forms of worship, dealings with others, and the Muslim’s relationship with his Lord and his own self and others.

{… And speak to people good [words].} [QUR’AAN: 2: 83].

DIFFERENT FORMS OF BEING CONSIDERATE TO OTHERS FEELINGS:

Here are some examples from the Prophet’s Sunnah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, that show how Islaam is concerned with protecting the feelings of a Muslim, and their psychological wellbeing.

1. Being considerate of the feelings of two people privately conversing and sitting next to each other:

Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:
“When you find two men conversing, do not go up to them nor sit with them until they give you permission.’”
[Reported by Ahmad (5949)]

Something similar to this is not to sit between two people who were sitting together without their permission.

‘Abdullaah ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:
“It is not lawful for a man to separate between two people without their permission.”
[Reported by At-Tirmidhi (2752) and Abu Daawood (4845)]

His, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, saying: “between two people” means to sit between them, “without their permission” because there may be love, compassion, secrecy and trustworthiness between them, and the person’s sitting in between them may disturb them.

2. Being considerate of the feelings of others when privately conversing:

Ibn Mas’ood, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “When you are three together, two should not speak together privately apart from the other one until you come together with other people because that might upset him.”
[Reported by Al Mubaarakfoori in his book ‘Awn AlMa’bood (13/133). Bukhaari (6290) and Muslim (2184).]

An-Nawawi, may Allaah have mercy on him, said: “This indicates that it is forbidden. So it is forbidden for two people to converse privately excluding the other person unless he permits it.”
[Reported by AnNawawi in his book Sharh AnNawawi ‘Ala Muslim (14/167)]

Ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be Prophet, pleased with him, said I asked the sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam: ‘What about four?’ He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, replied: ‘It will not harm you.’ When Ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, wanted to speak privately with somebody when there were three of them, he would call a fourth person and say: sit down for a while, as I have heard…and he would mention the Hadeeth.

3. Being considerate of a person’s feelings by not making him leave his spot for someone else to sit in:

Ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:

“Do not ask someone to give up his seat in order to take it, but make accommodation wide and sit at ease.”

In another narration: I said: “How about Friday?” He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “On Friday and other days.” It was a habit of Ibn `Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, that if a person left his seat for him, he would not take it.

Ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “Do not ask someone to give up his seat in order to take it, but make accommodation wide and sit at ease.” In another narration: I said: “How about Friday?” He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “On Friday and other days.” It was a habit of Ibn `Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, that if a person left his seat for him, he would not take it.

Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “A man should not give up his place for another man, instead make space and Allaah shall make space for you.”
[Al Bukhaari (6269) and Muslim (2177).]

Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:

“A man should not give up his place for another man, instead make space and Allaah shall make space for you.”

[Reported by Ahmad (10266)]

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